|Sharon and me, 1982|
About six years ago I started a little wedding business on the side.
To date I’ve hitched about 30 couples.
One of the requirements for my involvement is that couples sit with me for two sessions of pre-marriage counseling. I give them homework and in our discussions we get pretty deep into their relationship and issues.
Couple after couple, patterns emerge.
One is that many soon-to-be “man and wife” are opposite each other in significant ways.
For example, it’s often the case that she leads with emotion, he with logic.
Or she’s extroverted, he introverted.
Sometimes in both categories it’s the other way around.
It seems to me if your spouse is opposite you in a significant way you need to value the difference.